by Jacob Rueda
Today is Father’s Day in the United States. It is a day to recognize fatherhood in this nation. The day became a national day of recognition by President Richard Nixon in 1972 after he signed it into law (strange that a law had to be made to recognize fatherhood). Unfortunately as time has gone on, this day of recognition (along with every other holiday or day of recognition) has become increasingly commercialized. Consciousness in industrial nations today is such where the majority of people only recognize either parent or anyone else for that matter for a single day by purchasing gifts and other material things. The rest of the time, whoever or whatever is being recognized gets taken for granted. Speaking strictly of fatherhood, it has been lampooned and mocked in the media. Conditions in the social construct are such where some men develop mentalities which cause them to abandon their responsibility to their children, leaving only the mother to care for them. Naturally, not all men are like this.
Media presents fathers as silly and incompetent. Commercials and television programs often show fathers as too dumb to make decisions for their family, let alone themselves. They are also sometimes shown to be drunks and irresponsible skirt-chasers. Other times, they are shown as entertainment-obsessed misogynists- a byproduct of a male-dominated commercial mentality. While such scenarios do exist in the modern construct, they are not indicative of all fathers. However, those moments where everyone in the family unit works together despite differences and temperaments are almost never shown or talked about.
Coming back to the commercial aspect of Father’s Day, it seems rather empty to honor a paternal figure by buying them office supplies, handyman tools, and other products just to show appreciation for them. Sure, it’s nice but where is the human spirit in it? How much heart goes into such an action? Or, is it just function like buying presents during Christmas (or any other holiday for that matter)? The moneyed elite would like for everyone to continue to buy the honor of fatherhood instead of recognizing the efforts made by men to influence their children in a life-affirming manner without having to buy anything to honor fatherhood. Sadly, most people are not aware of this and continue the money cycle of buying presents which will stop having any use in a year-or-so’s time while taking either parent for granted after the holiday is over. They go back to their jobs and their mundane existence to continue the commercial cycle further.
Again, such is a product of an industrialized and commercial mindset. It is not indicative of the universal experience. When the energy of fatherhood is combined with that of motherhood, an offspring of great potential comes into being. The effects of this combination lasts a lifetime. It is evident given the existence of a person. The guidance received to create a benevolent and achieving life is something that ought to be recognized at all times, whether consciously or unconsciously. In the physical plane, fatherhood is like motherhood in that both are essential components for creation. It isn’t just sex and popping out babies for the sake of creating a commercialized family unit. The essence of humanity is in creation. Just like the female energy is one of nurture and creativity, the male energy is one of agility and understanding. None is more or less important than the other.
On Father’s Day, it is important to recognize the male figure of creation and honor the efforts made by those men who have the integrity to support their offspring in life-affirming ways. Fatherhood is a combined effort with motherhood. As it was said earlier, no one is more important than the other. Father’s Day is not the time to be buying empty presents which show nothing but a commercialized and heartless way to dismiss fathers every other day of the year. It is the day to recognize the efforts of men who stand by their families through turbulence and strife to bring forth a greater human community.